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Living Bigger Than Porn

James Pyatt | March 12, 2017

I recently had a milestone birthday. I told my wife that my biggest regret was wasting so much time watching porn and masturbating. I know a lot of you are ...

Why Marriage is Not the Cure

James Pyatt | February 7, 2017

Hi, everyone. Recently I was interviewed by Michael Leahy. He is the founder of BraveHearts and a legend in the world of sex addiction recovery and sexual integrity mentoring.   You ...

WMD in the Heart of a Woman

James Pyatt | February 2, 2017

This week my wife and I had the privilege of being interviewed by Michael Leahy. He is the founder of an organization which “mentors people to freedom from habitual ...

Work With Me

James Pyatt | February 2, 2017

I struggled with an addiction to pornography and masturbation for most of my life. If someone you know is struggling to overcome habitual sexual sin, please give them this information. ...

Impossible Steps to Quit Porn

James Pyatt | January 17, 2017


James Pyatt | January 12, 2017

I am Offended, so I Spiral

James Pyatt | November 4, 2016

Reality Of Porn

James Pyatt | July 22, 2016

The statistics say most men and a lot of women view porn. Not all get addicted or struggle to find reality despite watching it. But, then the exposure has changed quite a few of us. Men in every generation feel caught by the images they have viewed. This may not be the struggle of everyone, but it is a problem for all because it is changing our view of sex and romance.

Why You’re Still In The Dog House

James Pyatt | May 19, 2016

Apologizing. This reminds of the of the man’s prayer (at 2:17 in the video) in the Red Green Show. It goes like this (if you didn’t watch): “I’m a man, but I can change, if I have to, I guess.” As men, we are not comfortable with admitting the mistakes we make. Apologies expose our flaws and vulnerabilities. It also reminds us of our tremendous power to hurt other people. So we don’t apologize. We redirect. We blame shift. We lie. We cover our butt so that we still “look good” even if we did something awful. Our self-image survives at the cost of someone else’s feelings. This is fine, if it is just some jerk in traffic, but less so if that person shares our bed. Maybe you have a problem with empathy and wonder why she runs from the room in tears at times. “That’s odd, all I said was …”, this is what my wife (THE ONE) calls a “Stupid Guy Move”. I get it, you aren’t tuned in to your surroundings and just don’t notice your jerkish-ness. Eventually, you will be told, probably very directly, exactly what type of wiener you have been. Either way you aren’t apologizing and that is keeping you in the Dog House.

Fight It Like A Navy Seal

James Pyatt | May 4, 2016

I have recently been communicating with several men about their struggle with porn and getting free. A lot of them express a desire to get through the day without getting caught up in their addiction. From what I have seen in my own life and experience we follow our routines to the point of unawareness. Have you ever gotten to work, and thought “I am not totally sure how I got here”. Ok, maybe it is just me. As I go through my day unaware there is more of a tendency to do things that are unproductive or unhealthy. I am going with the flow. I don’t have a real plan I am just going through the motions. Then BAM, something new happens and I am caught in a bad situation. I am not ready for a change in the flow and I was not really paying attention to the events that led me to this point. Now I have to think quickly or I am in deep trouble. When it comes to my addiction, especially early on, I need more time to react so that I don’t fall into my routine (or rut). So, like a good boy scout my motto was “Be Prepared”. Porn in all of its subtle forms shows up everywhere in the US society. TV. Billboards. Even the soap dispenser in our kitchen has a woman in a bikini on it. To be prepared for this kind of bombardment throughout your day you have to have a plan.