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You can name every bird in the sky but you never learned how to treat the person standing next to you.
Most men are continuous learners. They’re always leveling up at work, hobbies, trivia, money. But they’ve never pointed that ability at the things that are actually falling apart. Their marriage. Their friendships. Their ability to say what they’re feeling without calling everything “fine.”
In this video I share the moment my wife called me out for knowing the name of a bird but not knowing how to treat people. And what I’ve been learning since.
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Visit our sister channel, The Couple Cure, for tools to help your wife and your relationship.Book referenced: Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
CHAPTERS:
0:00 – Studying the wrong things
0:05 – What to do once you find your blind spots
0:20 – Polishing strengths instead of filling gaps
0:48 – The turkey vulture story
1:15 – Learning the wrong things
1:22 – Emotional vocabulary
1:46 – Five words isn’t enough
2:08 – What shame sounds like vs anger
2:23 – A book that maps the emotions you never learned
2:40 – Stop calling everything fine
2:51 – The doctor analogy
3:03 – Help the people around you help you
3:27 – Reading other people’s emotions
3:40 – Lori and the feeling words in the park
4:00 – She’s scared, not angry
4:15 – Step toward her instead
4:34 – Empathy is a survival skill
5:00 – Without empathy you stay isolated
5:31 – Empathy can be learned
5:46 – Pick your weakness
6:08 – Find one resource
6:46 – Continuous learning is about the gaps
6:55 – Next episode: mentoring
7:39 – Take the assessment
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