I lost my first marriage, my military career, my grandfather, and a friend, all in a short stretch of years. I was still in my twenties. And I had no …
Why You’re Still Tired After “Resting”
Rest is not sleep, and it’s not a screen. If you’re always tired no matter how much you crash on the couch, you’ve probably never actually rested. Most men think …
Why You’re Stuck Even Though You’re Doing Everything Right
You can do everything right and still feel stuck. Often the missing piece isn’t more effort, it’s the right man walking a few steps ahead of you. Most men look …
You Learned the Name of a Bird (But Not How to Treat People)
You can name every bird in the sky but you never learned how to treat the person standing next to you. Most men are continuous learners. They’re always leveling up …
Why You Have Two Settings (And Neither One Is Real)
You’re either fine or you’re falling apart. There’s no middle ground. Greatest guy who ever lived or the worst. Both are performances. Neither one holds when the storm hits. In …
God On A Bumper Sticker: Why Your Faith Feels Empty
Your faith has to survive your worst day, not your best Sunday. Take the free Storm Ready Assessment: https://stormreadymen.com Most men fall into one of two categories: they feel nothing …
You’re Not Fine You’re Just Good at Looking Like It
15% of men have zero close friends. That’s 5x what it was in 1990. Most men aren’t lonely because they lack people around them. They’re lonely because nobody actually knows …
The Framework Every Man Needs Before Life Hits | Storm Ready Men
15% of men have zero close friends. That number is 5x what it was in 1990. Most men don’t prepare for the storms of life. They run, distract, numb out, …
I Used “You’re Shaming Me” to Shut My Wife Up
For years, I had a trick that worked every single time.My wife would bring up something I did that hurt her, and I’d say: “You’re shaming me.”Conversation over.I thought I …
Real Strength vs. The Mask: Welcome to Not Good … Better
The Lie of “Good”: You’ve been sold the lie that manhood is about external control—power, money, and dominance. This path gives you temporary wins but leaves you hiding behind a …
Your Marriage Outlasts Your Career
You’re grinding 70-hour weeks to provide. But here’s the math nobody tells you: Your career? 40 years max. Your marriage? Could be 75 years. Which one are you actually investing …
The Cowardice of Staying Busy: Why Your 70-Hour Workweek is a Tactical Failure
The world tells you to chase “Good”: power, money, and control. But if you need the office, a screen, or a paycheck to feel okay with yourself, you’re not high-value—you’re …
Bend to the Relationship
Yours Free How to Take Control of Your Browser Is your browser setting you up for failure. Don’t you wish the ads and images wouldn’t be so tempting? Here is …
Shame Filters and How Trauma Affects Time
Yours Free How to Take Control of Your Browser Is your browser setting you up for failure. Don’t you wish the ads and images wouldn’t be so tempting? Here is …
Dealing with Emotions
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Emotional Intelligence
I recently answered a question: How do I become a high emotional intelligence (EQ) person? Why do you care? Quitting pornography and rebuilding trust required me to reconnect with Lori …
Reality Of Porn
The statistics say most men and a lot of women view porn. Not all get addicted or struggle to find reality despite watching it. But, then the exposure has changed quite a few of us. Men in every generation feel caught by the images they have viewed.
This may not be the struggle of everyone, but it is a problem for all because it is changing our view of sex and romance.
Why You’re Still In The Dog House
Apologizing. This reminds of the of the man’s prayer (at 2:17 in the video) in the Red Green Show. It goes like this (if you didn’t watch): “I’m a man, but I can change, if I have to, I guess.” As men, we are not comfortable with admitting the mistakes we make. Apologies expose our flaws and vulnerabilities. It also reminds us of our tremendous power to hurt other people.
So we don’t apologize. We redirect. We blame shift. We lie. We cover our butt so that we still “look good” even if we did something awful.
Our self-image survives at the cost of someone else’s feelings. This is fine, if it is just some jerk in traffic, but less so if that person shares our bed.
Maybe you have a problem with empathy and wonder why she runs from the room in tears at times. “That’s odd, all I said was …”, this is what my wife (THE ONE) calls a “Stupid Guy Move”. I get it, you aren’t tuned in to your surroundings and just don’t notice your jerkish-ness. Eventually, you will be told, probably very directly, exactly what type of wiener you have been.
Either way you aren’t apologizing and that is keeping you in the Dog House.
